A warm hug & a big hello!
Divorce Deity isn't about arrogance or religion, it's about recognising the innate strength within you. The word 'Deity' refers to your divine nature within; the highest part of yourself that holds wisdom, love, and resilience.
No lawyer or court order can truly protect your child from the impact of divorce, but your healing can.
When you tap into your highest self you create a path of peace and stability for both you and your children.
Divorce Deity isn't about arrogance or religion - it's about recognising the innate strength within you. The word 'Deity' refers to your divine nature within, the highest part of yourself that holds wisdom, love, and resilience.
No lawyer or court order can truly protect your child from the impact of divorce, but your healing can. When you tap into your highest self you create a path of peace and stability for both you and your children.
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divorce coaching for parents
divorce coaching for parents
Let this divorce be the best thing that's ever happened to you
With immense training, legal experience and a heart for empowerment, I'm here to show you how, when you understand the legal system and have emotional clarity, you can save yourself, and your children, years of conflict, costs, hardship and pain.
It's a robust process and my method is more than just a series of talking sessions. It’s an immersive experience that reshapes your perception of relationships and happiness, and allows you to move forward beautifully, in spite of the challenges you're facing.
I'm a personal & professional coach specialising in parents, with young or teen children, navigating a high conflict divorce or parenting challenge.
I'm Kashmira.
welcome, dear friend!
— Ariana H
If you're looking for an an intelligent, intuitive and informed coach, as well as a shoulder to cry on, friend to laugh with, all rolled into one, then Kashmira is it. I promise you there's no one sweeter or stronger than her.
She's a God send.
cultivating deep inner peace.
whilst also
achieving your divorce goals
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why do i need coaching?
divorce coaching is not a luxury, it's a must!
divorce coaching is not a luxury, it's a must!
Especially if there are children involved, you've likely already realised the process is convoluted, confusing, antagonising and, at times, unfair.
Divorce can often feel like a game, a business, in the way that it navigates legal strategies, negotiations and personal dynamics.
It is imperative to find a divorce coach who understands the "game" and can help you "win", without compromising your integrity, which is crucial for a successful outcome.
to succeed you need:
strategic guidance
emotional balance
effective communication &
an ethical approach
— Sooperna P
"I learned how to manage my emotions, communicate effectively and co-parent in a way that truly supports my children. I really couldn't have done it without Kashmira's coaching and support."
— Olivia T
“I was angry and stuck and not sure about anything, but coaching with Kashmira changed everything.”
— Alejandra O
“I was very lost and stress, my English is not good so Kashmira helped me with my writing to the Court and understood my point to get it across perfectly.”
— Aoyemi A
“Kashmira’s wisdom with co-parenting is second to none. She knows it and understands it better than anyone.”
— Preeti S
“Kashmira's compassionate, non-judgmental approach made me feel heard and understood. I never felt alone during the process, knowing that she was always there to listen, encourage, and offer insight.”
— Clementine B
“I highly recommend Kashmira to anyone going through a divorce — she truly made a world of difference in my life!”
— Jahnvi P
“I don’t know where I’d be today without Kashmira. Going through a divorce is draining and overwhelming, but her advice helped me make decisions that I now look back on with no regrets. I was able to reclaim my life, my peace, and my future.”
Unlike generalised therapy or counselling that may focus solely on one area of your life, I delve deep quickly, coaching you to explore your values, your goals and challenges, legal, emotional and financial. I strive to understand your family as a whole in order to help strengthen and prepare you for co-parenting and what lies ahead.
unfortunately, yes. you have to advocate for your family. you have to understand the system well enough to steer it in the right direction.
Working with lawyers and barristers, understanding Judges and Cafcass, supervised access and child arrangement orders, can all be very overwhelming and underwhelming at the same time. You wonder if any of them really understands your unique family or whether they're all simply taking a cookie cutter approach, creating more heartache and separation.
Parenting can be a challenge at the best of times, however parenting whilst going through a divorce is parenting on steroids. There are just too many heightened emotions.
So Conscious/Co Parenting rests on cultivating parental self-awareness, presence and emotional regulation to best help yourself, and your child, move smoothly through this transition, and beyond.
What is divorce Coaching & conscious co-parenting?
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"Divorce scars your children for life",
goes the great misconception.
I've spent over a decade challenging this supposed truth and discovered, it's a lie.
So, if divorce must happen, then Conscious Co-Parenting coaching will show you how to correct past mistakes, conduct yourself ethically and effectively in Court, up level your children's wellbeing and find your happiness, no matter what the outcome.
In truth, if a divorce is handled with grace, compassion, respect, and honesty, by even just one parent, (you), then the experience of moving through it can be a phenomenal one. It offers you and your children the opportunity to evolve far beyond your current limitations and gain invaluable skills and insights, opening doors for peace, connection and a successful future.
how is divorce deity
different?
So you're getting divorced and you know you need to do this right. For yourself and for your children.
deep breath, exhale...
But you don't know how to get off this roller coaster of emotions and you don't know how to handle the hearings and the paperwork, or the safeguarding call from Cafcass, the judges and solicitors or the contact arrangements, or the children, or the soon-to-be-ex who is suddenly behaving like an arch enemy.
I hear you
i see you &
i understand
i'm here to help
That raising children is a privilege, meant to trigger deep internal transformation within us.
Until we accept this, it's a daily struggle made harder by feelings of hurt, anger, irritation, whether we are happy in our marriage or not.
But once we accept this, life becomes more joyful and easy. Parents are led to shed the layers of baggage they have inherited during their own lifetime and are unconsciously offloading onto their children. Now, further exacerbated by the gruelling process of going through a divorce.
As you become a more conscious parent, you will transform your relationships, protecting your children from destructive, emotional turbulence and raise truly happy, well-adjusted children, in spite of the divorce or separation. You'll find yourself feeling lighter, elevated and empowered.
That raising children is a privilege, meant to trigger deep internal transformation within us.
Until we accept this, it's a daily struggle made harder by feelings of hurt, anger, irritation, whether we are happy in our marriage or not.
But once we accept this, life becomes more joyful and easy. Parents are led to shed the layers of baggage they have inherited during their own lifetime and are unconsciously offloading onto their children. Now further exacerbated by the gruelling process of going through a divorce.
As you become a more conscious parent, you will transform your relationships, protecting your children from destructive, emotional turbulence and raise truly happy, well-adjusted children, in spite of the divorce or separation. You'll find yourself feeling lighter, elevated and empowered.
what is conscious co-parenting?
When books and podcasts and family and friends aren't helping and you're worried about how all this stress and tension is affecting the children, is when we are called to Conscious/Co Parenting, which reveals one profound truth.
"The mind is like water.
When it's turbulent, it's difficult to see. When it's calm, everything becomes clear."
- PRASAD MAHES
Emerging research has shown how investing in a specialist divorce coach actually saves you money, as well as reducing conflict and tension.
£10k
Life has changed dramatically and permanently for the better!
sessions
average savings
20
Everything is making sense and falling into place nicely!
sessions
10
Stress has largely reduced and you can see the way forward.
MINUTES
90
The results are quick!
Children from low-conflict divorced homes tend to fare far better than those from high-conflict marriages that stay together.
be your best!
Divorce coaching with me will help you make informed, rational, calm decisions instead of reactive ones driven by emotions, which lawyers tend to exploit.
take note!
conscious co-parenting works!
— Khusheed
I had two halves to my divorce. Before Kashmira and after Kashmira. Before Kashmira, was chaos, confusion and escalating legals bills. After Kashmira, I had clarity and was able to go into mediations confidently and communicate effectively. This put a stop to the unnecessary drama and miscommunications causing me so much stress and tension.
the challenges
the goalS
✔️ Avoid unnecessary conflict and communication.
✔️ Manage your child's emotions and/or aggression before, during or after contact with the co-parent.
✔️ Set boundaries for the co-parent in order to maintain your sanity.
✔️ Use healthy strategies to keep yourself calm and peaceful.
✔️ Be the stable, consistent role model in your child's life.
✔️ Manage and calm sibling rivalry.
✔️ Practice Conscious/Co Parenting skills.
✔️ Feel calm and confident going into a solicitor’s office and to Court.
✔️ Find a balance between responsibilities.
✔️ Handle court hearings and court documents confidently - saving you thousands of £££££.
✔️ Reply to the accusatory emails from your soon-to-be-ex and his lawyers in a way that benefits you.
✔️ Have the happiest, most loving, respectful, relationship with your children, now and forever.
✗ You're worried about dealing with Cafcass and the Court system.
✗ Your co-parent attacks your character in front of your children and/or tells lies about you.
✗ You have feelings of anger, disappointment or sadness.
✗ There is a financial inequality between households.
✗ Your child/ren may be starting to change or act out.
✗ Your co-parent slanders you to people in your child’s life: teachers, family, friends, etc.
✗ You or your co-parent frequently break the Parenting Agreements.
✗ You or your co-parent neglect the needs of your children.
✗ It's hard when the children have to leave for contact and when they return.
✗ You can't understand why your soon-to-be ex is behaving like such a self-centred egomaniac.
- Become your best self.
- Feel confident and empowered in yourself, in Court and in your abilities to thrive and to excel.
- Feel at peace in all your relationships and in the world.
master life
master communication
- Identify the real needs of the child.
- Choose the right strategy to manage emotions and behaviours.
- Apply the strategy wisely.
build new skills
- Master self regulation.
- Master your inner dialogue.
- Master conscious choice.
- Reflect in real time and practice.
get clarity
- Get clarity on what you want and why.
- Diagnose your parenting style.
- Identify your patterns.
- Break the loops.
- Reflect in real time and practice.
4 clear steps - to happy and free!
the method
dedicated support via your client portal
— Dr. Shefali
Awareness of how our inner life influences our external world is the first and most pivotal step toward a transformed relationship with our children.
Recommended books providing practical tools to help you alongside coaching sessions to cement your learning and achieve your goals.
Books
Online courses designed to welcome you into a life of peace and connection with your children, in spite of your divorce difficulty.
programmes
Tailored for those seeking profound personal and parenting growth, this is a unique space to dive deep & explore and bring about lasting change.
Coaching
How can I support you?
During our complimentary discovery call, we’ll discuss your unique situation, your goals for life after divorce, and determine if we’re the right fit to work together
