My purpose is to guide you through your divorce using a blend of empathetic life coaching and practical psychological strategies, wrapped up in genuine care and a touch of humour, so that you and your children can start creating a new, different life, better than before.
My story...
about Kashmira
And it’s a path best traveled with support and camaraderie.
In our sessions, I'll share the ups and downs of my path — and a quarter of a million dollars worth of learning from the best in the business — not just as a coach, but as someone who’s walked a similar road, to inspire your journey.
I'll admit that many times during my divorce, I felt like a martyr.
Always forcing myself to take the "high road" for the "sake of the children" and I'd angrily question myself,
"why should I always take the high road?"
"why does he get to get away with murder whilst I'm holding myself up to some saintly, goddess level standard?"
My life’s work is to provide a safe, impartial, informed, confidential space you can trust. My only agenda is to help you get the best possible outcome for you and your children.
in the end...
My divorce spanned 6.5 years,
traveled across 2 continents,
10,000+ pages in affidavits,
ultimately won every final hearing, on my own, against a team of fancy lawyers on the other side.
Believe me, I understand the struggle.
My journey taught me invaluable lessons. At the age of 37, with 3 children aged 2, 7 and 9, living in a foreign country, I found myself in an impossible situation that could only end in divorce. Initially — driven by fear and anxiety — I hired the No 1 law firm in Singapore thinking they would take care of everything. I hoped they would deal with matters quickly and effectively and always prioritise the children... because it I was told that this is everyone's top priority. Sadly, this just isn't true.
In reality, the children are an afterthought and three years down the line I couldn't afford the lawyers anymore anyway. Fortunately though, by that point, something amazing had happened. I had learned from an army of experts.
I had gained incredible knowledge, I knew how to clear my mind, control my emotions and was able to handle, and triumph, over every vexatious application, accusation, mind game and dirty trick in the book. All the while maintaining my integrity and protecting my relationship with my children.
My purpose is to guide you through your divorce using a blend of empathetic divorce coaching and practical psychological strategies, wrapped up in genuine care and a touch of humour, so that you and your children can start creating a new, different life, better than before.
About Kashmira
Now, years later, I see the value of my efforts, in my children, now 15, 20 and 22. Friends and friends of friends wanted advice and that's how Divorce Deity was born. As the answer, and a service, to all mothers, everywhere.
My story...
— Jayden M
“Going through my divorce was the hardest thing I've ever faced. It's no wonder divorce makes it into the top-3 list of most stressful things that can happen to a human being. But Kashmira helped me turn it into a journey of personal growth. She didn't just focus on the logistics, she also helped me rediscover my worth and my joy. Beyond grateful.”
During coaching, we'll use various techniques from various experts, to help bring you into the present moment so that your heart and mind are in alignment.
Licensed Educator
The Parent Practice
Qualified at Dr Shefali's Conscious Parenting & Life Coaching Institute. Hailed by Oprah as “revolutionary” and the “best child expert” she has ever interviewed in her career.
Certified Parenting & Life Coach
Qualified as a Legal Secretary from CILEx (The Chartered Institute of Legal Executives) I can help you get your message out succinctly and successfully.
Chartered Institute of Legal Executives
experience
— Sooperna P
"I learned how to manage my emotions, communicate effectively and co-parent in a way that truly supports my children. I really couldn't have done it without Kashmira's coaching and support."
— Olivia T
“I was angry and stuck and not sure about anything, but coaching with Kashmira changed everything.”
— Alejandra O
“I was very lost and stress, my English is not good so Kashmira helped me with my writing to the Court and understood my point to get it across perfectly.”
— Aoyemi A
“Kashmira’s wisdom with co-parenting is second to none. She knows it and understands it better than anyone.”
— Preeti S
“Kashmira's compassionate, non-judgmental approach made me feel heard and understood. I never felt alone during the process, knowing that she was always there to listen, encourage, and offer insight.”
— Clementine B
“I highly recommend Kashmira to anyone going through a divorce — she truly made a world of difference in my life!”
— Jahnvi P
“I don’t know where I’d be today without Kashmira. Going through a divorce is draining and overwhelming, but her advice helped me make decisions that I now look back on with no regrets. I was able to reclaim my life, my peace, and my future.”
I was born in Brazil and lived in Africa, Paris, Manhattan, Japan, India, Singapore and UK.
I've traveled to Italy, Hong Kong, Russia, Portugal, Australia, Spain, New Zealand, USA and South Africa. So far, my favourite places on earth are Thailand and Hawaii. I understand people and the influences of culture on mindset.
Words I live by. Going through my divorce, waiting anxiously for hearings to start, I would repeat this to myself over and over again. It's so relevant and on point.
I love Art! I love black and white photography! I was one of Tokyo and Singapore's leading Fine-Art family portrait photographers. These days my mission is to help families look and feel good on the inside.
Fun Facts
— Michelle S
Unfortunately I found Kashmira after I had already made terrible mistakes but still, Kashmira's guidance was invaluable in helping me to accept where I had gone wrong and she was even able to help me recover from some of my mistakes. I only wish I'd found her sooner.
Ready to transform your life? Join me on a path to peace and personal fulfilment.
awaken to
a world
of change
